I thank the gentleman for hosting this time. This is a conversation at the end of the day, after all the votes are over on the House floor and all the hustle and bustle and everything, and we get a chance just to shut down and be able to…
I thank the gentleman for hosting this time.
This is a conversation at the end of the day, after all the votes are over on the House floor and all the hustle and bustle and everything, and we get a chance just to shut down and be able to talk about issues like this week being National Marriage Week. Just for a moment, to be able to pause on an area that we really do agree on, as a Congress, and so many people can gather around to celebrate marriage, what marriage has meant in our own families, and what it means in our Nation.
Twenty years ago this May, I watched my bride walk in with her wedding dress, and I could never begin to explain the emotion of that. It's a moment I will never forget, seeing her smile and thinking, For the rest of my life, I'm going to get to spend it with that lady.
Love is an amazing thing. But marriage is not just love. It is commitment. It is the foundation of our culture. It is the very essence of what we call family. For me, as a follower of Jesus Christ, I also understand that marriage is one of the few things to survive the fall of man. Marriage existed in the Garden of Eden, and it still exists today.
I fully appreciate and understand the dynamics of single parenting-- growing up in a single-parent home myself, I watched my mom dedicate her life to myself and my brother, and how hard she worked. But I can tell you, from her perspective and from no person I have ever met, have they picked up a newborn child and looked into that newborn's face and said, I hope this child grows, gets great grades, goes to a good college, gets married, and then gets divorced. No one does that because, as a culture, we understand the value of marriage. It's intrinsic within us that we get it, and we honor that. We see an elderly couple in the park and see them smiling at each other, and we wonder about how many decades they've spent together. And we honor them, as a culture, because they have strived for so many years and have been committed for so many years to each other. It is to be honored. And it's a good thing for us to stop for just a moment in the hustle of this day to honor marriage again.
And let me just say, as a government as well, marriage is a big deal to us because there's a direct correlation: The weaker our families are, the more government has to stand up and provide services. The stronger our families are, the less there is a need for government. You'll see it in law enforcement. You'll see it in social services. You'll see it in food stamps. On and on and on, the stronger our families are, the less government we need. And as our families collapse, we have an acceleration of government to try to fill in the gaps. It is this uniting aspect of our culture--white, black, Latino, Asian, American Indian, every race, faith. Family is the key, and marriage is the essence of that.
A quick story. A few weeks ago at the Martin Luther Day festivities in Oklahoma City, Paco Balderrama, who works the gang unit within Oklahoma City's police department--he is a fantastic officer with a terrific reputation in our community--stood up, and he began to talk about marriage and about families. And he made a statement. He said, of all the gang arrests that they do and of all the gang interventions that they do in Oklahoma City, he said, 1 percent of the gang members that I pick up come from married, intact families, 1 percent. The more our families fall apart, the more government has to rise up.
In intact families, you have a lower use of drug use in those kids, of crime in those kids, of poverty, and passing on poverty to the next generation. They have safer homes with less abuse. They have less risk of early sexual activity, all because they have come from a family that is married and committed to each other. We should maintain that in our Federal policies, that in every way possible, we support marriage, not discourage marriage.
A great example of that is the marriage penalty that's in SSI right now. If you are on disability insurance and you are single, you get one payment. But if you are married, it's much lower. If you are single, you can have one amount, and you can have one amount of assets, but if you are married, it's less. So it basically is a disincentive for a person on SSI to be married.
I have personally interacted with people in Oklahoma City that have been living together for years. And when I asked them about it, and said, Why don't you get married? Why don't you settle this commitment? His response to me was, I can't afford to do that. I'll lose part of my SSI benefits.
We, as a government, should do everything we can to make sure there are no marriage penalties in any of our social service programs because the best thing that can be done to pull families out of poverty is a stable, strong home. And when there's a stable, strong marriage, that will build up families. And the more we step in as a government and say, I know your family's falling apart, but we're just going to subsidize you. In fact, we'll subsidize you to a level that you don't have to get married. In fact, we discourage you from getting married. It's absurd on its face.
The cultural thing that pulls us all together--every race, every religion--is the marriage being the center of that home. And for every family that I have ever talked with, their hope for their children is that they get married, and they stay married.
It is still a core foundation of our culture. Many marriages have fallen apart, but we should as a Nation stand beside marriage. It's a great week. It is always a great week to celebrate National Marriage Week.