Madam Speaker, sadly Melissa Jane Dell of Ridgeland, South Carolina succumbed to Huntington's disease at age 40 on November 9, 2010. She was the daughter of Ouida and Wayne Dell and the mother of Bethany Dell. Her brother Eric Dell, Chief…
Madam Speaker, sadly Melissa Jane Dell of Ridgeland, South Carolina succumbed to Huntington's disease at age 40 on November 9, 2010. She was the daughter of Ouida and Wayne Dell and the mother of Bethany Dell. Her brother Eric Dell, Chief of Staff of the Second Congressional District, presented the following family witness on November 11, 2010, at St. Paul's United Methodist Church.
Melissa Dell--A Life of Love and Hugs
I would like to begin by thanking God for my sister,
Melissa. She was an inspiration to me and so many others. I
also would like to thank everyone here today, as everyone has
touched Melissa and our family in a special way. I especially
thank family members who have been so faithful to Melissa
over the past few years and especially the past month.
Especially, Aunts Charlene, Linda, Karen, Pearnease, and
Barbara and cousins Allison, Michael, Cynthia, David and
Theresa. I also want to thank my mom for her tireless
devotion and dedication to Melissa and Gayle and TaWanda who
would come to care for Melissa whenever called. The last
group I would like to thank is the caretakers and the staff
and friends of Melissa at the adult day care and physical
therapy in Ridgeland. She loved the day care and physical
therapy and its people so much. She was never happier than
when she was at the day care and physical therapy.
God made a special person when he made Melissa. We are all
created by God to serve
a purpose here on earth. Her purpose was so special, and she
fulfilled her purpose beautifully in 40 short years. Melissa
suffered physically more than most of us in this church will
ever suffer. But, she always had a smile on her face and hug
in her hands.
I want to talk a little about Melissa's younger years, but
focus mainly on the last fifteen years of her life, as I
think that is when Melissa truly shined here on her earthly
journey. When we were growing up, Melissa was always the
``good'' child. I was the one that was always getting into
trouble and she would never tell on me to mom and dad.
Melissa and I enjoyed many fun times together playing in
lakeview terrace with friends who are some of her pall
bearers today. I remember the fun times of swimming in our
pool, playing kickball, always being outside and eating ice
cream from Mr. Bunton's ice cream truck. She ate so much ice
cream that she gained the name ``Popsicle''. She enjoyed ice
cream for as long as I can remember. She was an avid
basketball and softball player in high school and always
enjoyed being around people. She also attended Georgia
Southern for three years and I remember visiting her there
while in high school. She always made me feel older than I
was, which I enjoyed at the time. I thought it was cool to
have an older sister who was in college. She was a role model
for me in that sense. She was always good at math and enjoyed
working in restaurants because she enjoyed ``taking care of
people.''
Melissa also had a strong love for her daughter Bethany.
When Melissa could no longer drive, she would push Bethany
all over town in a stroller to spend as much quality time
with her as she could. I will always remember Melissa and
Bethany playing silly games together and Melissa just having
a ball. She was a great mother.
As most of you know, Melissa fought Huntington's disease
for the past 15 years or so. This is a horrible disease that
my family has dealt with for many years. I firmly believe
that God allowed her, instead of me, to have Huntington's
disease because she was a much stronger person than me when
it comes to handling pain and she had a better ability to
show her love to others through this earthly pain. To those
of you who have known Melissa, you have known a special
person and have received a gift from God by knowing her.
There is no doubt in my mind God used Melissa's suffering to
show us His love and to further His kingdom. The more Melissa
suffered and the closer she got to heaven the more I could
see the Cross in her and the more she shared the Christian
principles of Unconditional Love and Prayer.
Just this week, I e-mailed my office staff about Melissa's
passing and I received an e-mail back from one staffer that
read: ``Sorry to hear this Eric. I will always remember
Melissa reaching out to give me a hug as soon as I introduced
myself--it was obvious she had a wonderful spirit--that has
not changed!'' It's interesting that I received this e-mail
after I had already begun writing this eulogy from the
premise that was spelled out in this e-mail. I'm sure
everyone here has received that wonderful unconditional hug
from Melissa. She is now hugging everyone she sees in heaven.
Melissa was a strong woman who promoted Love and Prayer
throughout her earthly struggle with Huntington's and used
her body as a temple of the Holy Spirit. 1 Cor. 6:19-20
states: ``Do you not know that your body is a temple of the
Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from
God?'' She couldn't speak as we do, but she furthered the
Kingdom of God more than I could ever do.
When preparing for this eulogy, I found a verse that is
very appropriate and fitting to Melissa. 1 John 3:18: ``Let
us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in
truth.'' This is a perfect description of Melissa. As
Huntington's began to overtake her body, she was not able to
communicate with her tongue, so she communicated with her
hands. To those of you who know her, you know, the first
thing that she would do when you saw her was to raise her
hands and hug you. It didn't matter if she was at home in her
chair, in the hospital or out on the town, she would always
want a hug from whomever she saw. She would even do this if I
came in the house and she was half asleep. The more Melissa
suffered, the stronger God showed us Jesus in her actions.
God was using her body as a temple of the Holy Spirit to show
us how Jesus wants us to love.
Melissa didn't ask if someone was poor, rich, old,
homeless, handicapped, young, black, brown, or white, she
wanted to hug them and love them. If only we could be this
loving in our daily lives. Can you imagine walking down the
street and hugging everyone you see and showering them with
love? Wouldn't that make for a wonderful, beautiful world?
This was Melissa. This is what I remember about Melissa more
than anything. She could not speak with her mouth, but she
spoke way more with her actions than she could have ever done
with her mouth. She was showing the love of Jesus to everyone
she met regardless of infirmity, class status, race, or
wealth. What a model for us to live by.
Secondly, Melissa reminded us to pray. 1 Thessalonians
5:16-18 states that we should ``Rejoice always, pray
continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is
God's will for you in Christ Jesus.'' God has placed people
like Melissa in our midst to further His kingdom. Think about
it for a minute, if we didn't have people like Melissa, we
wouldn't lean on God and pray so much. God wants us to pray
continually, not just occasionally, but continually. Melissa
gave us reason to pray continually and draw us closer to
Christ. I want you to remember this. When you see someone who
is suffering from earthly challenges, think of Melissa and
pray. What a great legacy to leave.
Melissa taught us to love, unconditionally and to pray
continually. There is no better gift. Through her suffering,
she allowed Jesus to shine upon us and show us His way of
love and prayer. She allowed Christ to use her suffering to
expand His kingdom. In closing, I say to Melissa, the words
of Matthew 11:28: ``Come to me, all who are tired from
carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. You are at
rest now. You have served your God and are now at rest.''
Thank you for letting Jesus use your illness to shine on
everyone you met. You are truly an angel sent from God and
inspiration to all of us.