Mr. President, in a few moments we will be closing for the week. Before we leave, I want to take just a few moments to reflect on a very special holiday coming up this weekend, and that is Father's Day. On Sunday, families all across…
Mr. President, in a few moments we will be closing for the week. Before we leave, I want to take just a few moments to reflect on a very special holiday coming up this weekend, and that is Father's Day.
On Sunday, families all across America will celebrate their dads with dinners and lunches and gifts and, if my
family is typical, some gentle teasing over the course of the day.
It is a day that we show our gratitude and how important our dads are--and have been and continue to be--in our lives.
In my own case, I cherish my memories of my dad. I think of him each and every day. He was my mentor in medicine, mentor in public service, mentor in humanitarian efforts, and my friend. It was his love and his wisdom and his encouragement that gave me the confidence to work outside of the box, to take risks, and to set high goals.
As I was thinking back a few moments ago as to what I would say, I remembered and recall most vividly, after returning back to Nashville, TN, and working at Vanderbilt--after having been away from Nashville for a long period of time with college and medical school and my internship and residency and training and moving back to Nashville-- every day I would drive by my parents' home on the way to work at Vanderbilt Hospital.
As I would go by that house--and, ironically, it is the same house I live in today, but as I would go by that house, I would think, each day, about the values that dad--both parents and really the entire family--instilled in each of us.
I also used it as a marker place in coming home every night. As I drove by that white house, I would call. That number would be dialed as I was driving by. And by the time I got home, we would complete our conversation, on a daily basis--each and every day.
Indeed, he was an extraordinary man in many ways, not in his accomplishments or just being a great physician, a humble physician treating people throughout middle Tennessee, but in his acts of generosity and in his kindness, known throughout the community for his good works.
My father died in 1998. Mother and Dad both died within about 36 hours of each other of totally independent causes. In truth, it was referred at the funeral as a great love story. A lot of people arrived for the funeral of my dad--my mother died about 30 hours later--and there were two caskets there. Thinking about how tragic it was, in truth it was a manifestation of what was a great love story, a marriage of over 65 years.
Dad, not too long before he died, wrote a letter to his grandchildren and great-grandchildren and great-great-grandchildren that he would never know--that is the way he opened the letter to them--passing on in about a two-page letter the insights he had in very simple ways, humble ways. It is a long letter, and I won't read the whole of it but just a few paragraphs.
Again, this is a letter he left to be passed on to future generations. His advice was:
Be happy in your family life. Your family is the most
important thing you can ever have. Love your wife or your
husband. Tell your children how great they are. Encourage
them in everything they do.
Be happy in your community. Charity is so important.
There's so much good to do in the world and so many different
ways to do it.
A little bit later in the letter he wrote:
The world is always changing, and that's a good thing. It's
how you carry yourself in the world that doesn't change.
Morality, integrity, warmth, and kindness are the same things
in 1910, when I was born, or in 2010 or later when you will
be reading this. And that's a good thing, too.
Dad is the one who had the high ideals. I have done my best to try to live up to those ideals and to that sterling example he set before us. I have worked hard as a dad to instill those same values and commitments in my own sons.
This weekend, as we celebrate our fathers and the good news that America's fathers are more present in their children's lives than ever, we all realize that they have a huge impact. Children involved with loving fathers are more likely to do well in school, to have healthy self-esteem, to show empathy, to avoid destructive behaviors. Kids do better with their dads around.
For a while, America seemed to forget this. But now we know in our kids what we have always known in our hearts: America's dads deserve our respect and our support, dads on the frontline who risk their lives for our freedom, dads on the home front who work hard to support their families.
Fatherhood is the most important responsibility a man will ever take on. It is also the most rewarding.