Mr. Speaker, I rise today to participate in the HRC Foundation Welcoming Schools Jazz and Friends Day of School and Community Readings. Each year, this day is meant to inspire caring community members to join together to affirm the rights…
Mr. Speaker, I rise today to participate in the HRC Foundation Welcoming Schools Jazz and Friends Day of School and Community Readings.
Each year, this day is meant to inspire caring community members to join together to affirm the rights of trans and non-binary youth and show support for LGBTQ children and youth to have safe, affirming, and welcoming schools and communities.
To take part in this year's readings, I am proud to stand on the floor of the U.S. House of Representatives to read from ``When Aidan Became a Brother,'' by author Kyle Lukoff:
When Aidan was born, everyone thought he was a girl. His
parents gave him a pretty name. His room looked like a girl's
room. And he wore clothes that other girls liked wearing.
But as Aidan got bigger, he hated the sound of his name. He
felt like his room belonged to someone else. And he always
ripped or stained his clothes accidentally-on-purpose.
Everyone thought he was just a different kind of girl.
Some girls had rooms full of science experiments and bug
collections.
Lots of girls didn't wear dresses.
But Aidan didn't feel like any kind of girl. He was really
another kind of boy.
It was hard to tell his parents what he knew about himself,
but it was even harder not to.
It took everyone some time to adjust, and they learned a
lot from other families with transgender kids like him.
Aidan explored different ways of being a boy. He tried out
lots of names until one stuck. They changed his bedroom into
a place where he belonged. He also took much better care of
his new clothes.
Then one day, Mom and Dad had something to tell him.
``I'm going to have a baby,'' Mom announced.
``A baby,'' Aidan said? ``Does that mean I get to be the
big brother?''
``Of course,'' said Dad, ruffling his hair.
Aidan thought that being a big brother was an important job
for a boy like him. He wanted to make sure this baby would
feel understood right away.
The baby needed clothes, so Aidan and his mom went
shopping. There were so many choices! Would the baby like
seahorses or penguins better?
``Are you having a boy or girl?'' asked a lady.
Aidan didn't like it when people asked if he was a boy or a
girl, and he hoped the baby couldn't hear yet. He was glad
when Mom just smiled and said, ``I'm having a baby.''
The baby's room needed to be painted, so Aidan and his dad
went to the hardware store. Dad chose a gallon of sky-blue
paint, and Aidan added a puffy-cloud white.
``Are you excited for your new brother or sister?'' asked
the paint guy?
``I'm excited to be a big brother,'' Aidan said.
The paint guy looked confused. Aidan could tell that he
wanted to ask a different question, and he was glad to have
his dad there.
The big rollers were fun to paint with. ``This room feels
just like being outside,'' Aidan exclaimed. He had always
felt trapped in his bedroom before they fixed it, but his new
sibling wouldn't have to feel that way.
``You're right,'' said Dad. ``Let's make some shapes in the
clouds.''
Every baby needs a name. Aidan loved getting to choose his
own, but he remembered that it had been hard for his parents
to let go of the name they gave him. He looked for names that
could fit this new person no matter who they grew up to be.
Babies needed someone to read to them, so Aidan practiced
and practiced and practiced.
Dad wanted to teach Aidan how to change diapers. ``Um,
maybe later,'' said Aidan. He decided that picking flowers
for his mom was more important.
Two weeks before the baby's due date, Aidan started to
worry. Maybe he should have picked different clothes. The
blue walls might be too bright. He wished he could ask the
baby which name they liked best.
Mom came to tuck him in. ``Are you feeling okay, sweetie?''
she asked.
Aidan put his hands over where he thought the baby's ears
would be. ``Do you think the baby will be happy with
everything?'' he whispered. ``I don't want them to feel like
I did when I was little, but what if I get everything wrong?
What if I don't how to be a good big brother?''
Mom hugged him tight. ``When you were born, we didn't know
you were going to be our son. We made some mistakes, but you
helped us fix them. And you taught us how important it is to
love someone for exactly who they are. This baby is so lucky
to have you, and so are we.''
The next morning, Aidan found the boxes of his old baby
pictures. He looked so different back then! It hadn't been
easy, but he liked the boy he was growing into.
Maybe everything wouldn't be perfect for this baby. Maybe
he would have to fix mistakes he didn't even know he was
making. And maybe that was okay.
Aidan knew how to love someone, and that was the most
important part of being a brother.