Mr. Speaker, today I submit the homily of Theodosia Murphy Nolan, a legendary Arkansas businesswoman and philanthropist, delivered on May 28, 2014, and authored by her godson, the Reverend Doctor Christoph Keller III. Theodosia; from theos…
Mr. Speaker, today I submit the homily of Theodosia Murphy Nolan, a legendary Arkansas businesswoman and philanthropist, delivered on May 28, 2014, and authored by her godson, the Reverend Doctor Christoph Keller III.
Theodosia; from theos (God) and dosis (gift). ``Gift of
God.''
As Jesus was passing through Samaria, he met a woman at a
well. Thirsty, he asked for water. ``Who are you,'' she said,
``a Jew, a man, asking me, a woman of Samaria, for water?''
That's when he said: ``If you knew the gift of God, and who
it is that asks you for a drink, he would give you living
water.'' If you knew the Gift of God. If you knew Theodosia.
If you knew Theodosia, then you know the story; that her
father was already forty-five, her mother thirty--old for
those days--when they married; that in the first two
pregnancies, they lost their baby. Now came a daughter,
beautiful and healthy. With thankful hearts, they named her
Theodosia.
You know that she grew up gentle, respectful and devoted to
her parents, but not meek; that at sixteen, she owned and
flew an airplane, setting a dangerous example for her sister,
in the opinion of my father; and that at eighteen, she
married William, over objections from her parents. She was
too young; about William, there were questions. As she stood
her ground opposite her parents, she was being every inch
their daughter. Firm and loving, they gave their children
rope to make and accept the consequences of their own
decisions. It was her life and she would get to live it as
she saw fit.
So how did she live it? As a firm and loving wife and
mother, devoted to her family--and with William, who was a
keeper.
If you knew Theodosia, you know Bubba. For our guests,
Bubba is our term of endearment for Bertie Wilson Murphy,
Theodosia's mother. I guess Charlie Nolan must have been the
first to call her that. Eventually, Bubba was her name to
everyone in El Dorado.
When Bubba died almost forty years ago, Theodosia--now
``Dosia,'' thanks to Diny--assumed the matriarchal mantle for
our wider family, including siblings Charles, Polly and
Bertie, plus all their progeny and in-laws. Ours has been a
fruitful, multiplying clan, now sprawled out across the
planet from Seattle to Beirut. The family center, though, is
here in El Dorado: 900 N. Madison, where you can dangle your
feet in the pool, sucking scuppernongs and muscadines.
If you've read King Lear, or Faulkner, or Genesis and 2nd
Samuel, or the Wall Street Journal, or watched Dallas, then
you should know that life in families isn't simple,
necessarily.
Theodosia, however, doesn't bring to mind the complexity
of family life. She represents its grace. It was Robert Frost
who said: ``Home is the place where, when you have to go
there, they have to take you in.'' True enough, I suppose,
but it doesn't capture Theodosia. With her, you wanted to go
there and she wanted to take you in. She wanted to feed you a
heart-healthy breakfast: quail and scrambled eggs, Talla Bena
sausage with a side order of bacon, pancakes with Ribbon Cane
syrup (maple syrup only if you begged, served with a slight
frown of disapproval). She wanted you to plop down beside her
on the couch, get comfortable, and tell her the latest
chapter of your story. She would know that you weren't
telling her the whole truth. You would know that, even if you
did, she would love you. There was nothing you could do or
say that would warrant expulsion. You were family, period.
A word to my younger Nolan cousins: I used the word
``grace.'' If you have heard that word and wondered what it
means, then think of where you stood with Dosia.
Remember your worst day. You know that on that day she
still loved you. That is grace. Jesus made that point through
parables, like the prodigal son returning to his father. You
can understand the father in that parable just by knowing
Dosia. Once you understand that father, you know God.
The force of Theodosia's presence and example on our
family history is impossible to calculate, but I am thinking
that her impact was enormous. After everything, and no small
thanks to her, we know our family as a blessing. We won't let
it be less.
If you knew Theodosia, you know that, not only was she
devoted to a family, she was devoted to a place: El Dorado,
Arkansas.
Let's think on this place. Growing up in Arkansas, we
learn early on of our three distinct geological regions:
mountains to the north and west, delta to the east and, in
between, spreading south from Little Rock, the gulf coastal
plane. Of the three regions, this is the one that seems to
have lacked a national identity: Hillbillies, they know,
delta planters, they know, but who are we?
Well, there is a lot of wood, so I will start with that.
Wood means deer, and I will mention that. Then came oil. My
wife Julie recently took on a project to salvage and restore
a Steinway piano at Central High School in Little Rock. This
instrument had been purchased for the school in 1927. Julie
tracked down the original Steinway distributor's ledger that
recorded the sale. That particular ledger page shows 73 sales
from throughout the Mid-South. Looking it over, Julie noticed
a sale, December 28, 1926, to Bertie Wilson Murphy. When
Julie showed me her find, I noticed that, of the entries on
that page, no fewer than twenty were to buyers in El Dorado,
Arkansas. It made perfect sense! The Busey-Armstrong well
came in 1921. Through the twenties, El Dorado was a boomtown.
What are you going to do with all that new money? The good
citizens of El Dorado were going to purchase Steinways, which
we now know is what people did with extra cash before the
invention of the bass boat. Just three weeks ago, Julie
brought that ledger down to 900 North Madison and showed it
to Theodosia. They sat down on the couch beside Bubba's
Steinway, and Julie caught Theodosia up on Keller family
stories.
El Dorado's early glory day was back before the great
depression. Even then, it would not have been the kind of
town that is full of its own importance. There are such
places. Great ladies in such places are not called Bubba. I
have lived in such places and I appreciated and enjoyed them.
But they don't care. They don't need our loyalty and love. If
we want the kind of instant self-esteem they offer, we can
have it just by living there. They give us that, needing
nothing in return. These places are in New York or
California. I am told there may be some in Texas. They are
not in Arkansas. They are not El Dorado.
The big oil play petered out and the economics of the
region began to favor dispersion: raise your kids and send
them off, pack up the Steinways and move on. But El Dorado
defied that fate with muscular determination, as well as
cultured sensibility and aesthetic flair. Does that sound
like anyone we know?
As much as Theodosia's love for family was unconditional,
so was her commitment to South Arkansas. The taxes are a
little higher here than Florida or Texas, the lights a little
brighter in New York, but she belonged to El Dorado, case
closed. She stayed put, as did her brother; and, as they
insisted, so did the companies they founded. So Madison
stayed too, with Suzanne; and Bill, with Deborah; and Bob
with Candi, and in came Claiborne with Elaine; now Raymond
with Liza; and back come Mike and Sydney. And now El Dorado
is recognized throughout the country as the town where anyone
and everyone can get a college education. There are no such
towns in Texas, New York or California. El Dorado has an
impressive new identity; and a remarkable town square; and
a beautiful new school; and a growing reputation for
commitment to the arts. Also, the Wildcats are doing well.
All this grew as much from heart as calculation. This is a
little bit like faith. It has to stand the tests of reason--
in this case, economic reason--and it does, but there are
other factors in the blend: appreciation for tradition;
memories of loved ones; love of neighbor. As Newman said of
faith, belief in El Dorado lives in the desire for that which
it confesses. There are things between earth and heaven, my
dear Horatio, undreamt of by Investor's Weekly. To Theodosia,
such things were real and exceedingly important--and in some
small part because she saw them as such, they took hold.
Through grace, grit and imagination, El Dorado perseveres
against the tide.
If you knew Theodosia, you know where else her love of
place and family coalesced: the Coast and Cherokee. When we
say ``coast'' we don't mean the Pacific Palisades, we mean
Pass Christian and the Mississippi Sound--waveless, brown and
shallow. We couldn't wait to get there: slathered up with Off
and Coppertone, fishing from the pier, catching crabs and
speckled trout and occasionally a stingray; swinging in a
hammock with a good or trashy book; zooming up and down the
Gulf Coast Highway; eating better than kings. All that, we
lost to Hurricane Katrina. Even the house that Bubba built
couldn't hold against that primal tide. Safely inland,
Cherokee endures.
If you knew Theodosia, you know that, as we reckon long,
she lived a long time: from Model T to Prius. Not that she
would drive a Prius: she belonged in Thunderbirds. She lived
through social revolutions. I always knew what Polly Keller
thought about those revolutions as they happened. I also had
a solid take on William Nolan's views, which reliably ran
opposite to Polly Keller's. Theodosia held her opinions
closer to the vest. She seemed neither restless with the way
things were, nor much disturbed by the thought that they were
changing. There would still be town and family to attend to,
come what may.
I do know that in 1966 she supported David Pryor's run for
Congress in the Fourth District, because I read that in his
book (actually, my son Christoph read the whole book and
showed this to me. I read only the two or three sentences
concerning Theodosia.) In the primary, Charles Murphy was
backing Richard Arnold. (Show me a congressional election
from New York to California that involved such commendable
opponents.) The battle went to Pryor and Theodosia over
Charles and Richard Arnold. As I said, meek she was not.
Watch over thy child Theodosia, O Lord, as her days
increase. Bless and guide her, wherever she may be.
If you know Theodosia, you know her faith: Methodist, with
the occasional Episcopal accoutrements; and you know that she
called her children, and their children, and theirs, on their
birthdays, to pray with them from the Book of Common Prayer.
Strengthen her when she stands, comfort her when
discouraged or sorrowful . . .
Well, certain aspects of that prayer are no more
applicable to Theodosia. She leaves sorrow and discouragement
behind. She leaves you, her beloved family, with that prayer,
to say for one another as you carry on. As you say that
prayer, as I know you'll do, you will think of her. As you
think of her, remember her in faith. The faith in that prayer
imbues our attitude towards place and family--actually, our
attitude towards everything, Theodosia's death included. At
least, it should; and for her, it did.
This place, First United Methodist, was the church through
which she lived that faith through all her many years. Here,
she commended the souls of Charles and Bertie her parents;
William her husband; Charles her brother; and Bill her son,
to the good Lord who was grace itself, incarnate.
If you know Theodosia, you know that, good Methodist that
she was, her faith in Christ was first and last a matter of
the heart.
She had a good one, didn't she. She was a gift.