Remembering Ken Gorelick
Mr. President, on June 8, 2009, a brilliant physician, humanitarian, intellectual and caring person passed away. I knew Ken Gorelick and his extended family for almost 50 years and fully believe that more physicians like him would make…
Mr. President, on June 8, 2009, a brilliant physician, humanitarian, intellectual and caring person passed away. I knew Ken Gorelick and his extended family for almost 50 years and fully believe that more physicians like him would make health care more effective for many. With all of his intelligence he had a unique belief that his principal responsibility was to devote as much energy as he could muster to help those who needed professional care recover from their illnesses. He was daring in his choices of treatment for his patients always searching to reach beyond conventional methodology for the best outcome.
To commemorate his life I ask that a eulogy which was prepared for his funeral be printed in the Record. It so fully describes the unusual character of this great human being who will be missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him.
The eulogy follows:
Kenneth Paul Gorelick, M.D.
Psychiatrist, essayist, poet, and leading poetry therapist
Dr. Kenneth Paul ``Joshua'' Gorelick has left us and this
world, after two years of valiant efforts to overcome brain
cancer. He was 67.
When recently asked why he had chosen psychiatry as a
career and life pursuit, Ken responded that he had been
fascinated by psychology's promise of a ``way to understand
the invisible parts of life'' and ``to understand life
stories.'' This great fascination was driven by Ken's
intrinsic love of life and people and the human narrative,
which, in turn, propelled him on the lifelong journey of an
insatiable learner, an inspired teacher, and a caring doctor.
He read widely and avidly; he relished the arts and supported
them; he wrote extensively, both prose and poetry; he
instructed and lectured; he ministered to those in need and
healed those he could. Ken possessed that rare Renaissance
mind that brought a rich and textured approach to his daily
life, his practice as a psychiatrist, and his teaching of
psychiatry at St. Elizabeth's Hospital and George Washington
University (GWU), where he was awarded Professor Emeritus
status, and numerous national and international conferences.
Yet, throughout his life of great academic and professional
pursuits and accomplishments, he never stopped his joyful
appreciation and examination of human behavior and the human
condition, and he never stopped attempting to improve that
condition through is work and his daily interactions with
others.
Born and raised in Paterson, New Jersey, the son of Russian
Jewish immigrant parents, Ken was inspired to become a doctor
early on. When he was four, his father had a heart attack and
the daily doctor visits left an indelible impression. A
favorite story of his recalls the compliment he received
early in his training from a medical school professor for
conducting a skillful psychiatric interview. He explained
that he had asked just what he had learned to ask customers
during his childhood in Gorelick's Bakery, ``How may I help
you?''
Ken's academic life testified to his fervent desire for
learning and understanding. He was first in his class at
Montclair Academy (New Jersey) and at Rutgers College. He was
awarded the Phi Beta Kappa Prize, as well as General
Electric, Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, and Henry Rutgers
scholarships, and he graduated summa cum laude. Accepted at
Columbia, Yale and Harvard Medical Schools, Ken chose instead
to accept a Fulbright scholarship to Bordeaux in order to
research French literature and study French language,
continuing what had by then become a lifelong passion for the
beauty and power of the written and sounded word.
Again applying to Harvard, Ken was accepted, and he then
graduated in 1967. After his medical internship at Mount Zion
Hospital and Medical Center in San Francisco, he returned to
Harvard in 1968, completing his residence in 1971 at the
Massachusetts Mental Health Center. During this period, he
also served on the Harvard University faculty as Clinical
Instructor in psychiatry.
At St. Elizabeth's, the first Federal mental health
facility, Ken was an expert in the Hospital's history. He
gave numerous lectures and keynoted the St. Elizabeth's 150th
Anniversary celebration in 2005. He was a founder of the
Historical Museum. Ken was deeply moved and inspired by
founder Dorothea Dix's commitment to ``the most humane care
and enlightened curative treatment.'' Ken brought this
commitment to his private practice and hospital work,
encouraged a patient enterprise program, and led DC
Council members and others on a visit to Bethel, Germany
to see model humane treatment of patients.
Ken was a noted pioneer and widely respected leader in the
use of literature in the field of psychotherapy, particularly
poetry therapy, serving on the executive boards of the
National Federation for Biblio/Poetry Therapy, as president
of the National Association for Poetry Therapy, and on the
National Council of Creative Therapies. In recognition of his
many contributions to the field, he received the Outstanding
Achievement Award and the Morris Morrison Education Award in
2004. With colleague Arleen Hynes, he established the first
standardized training curriculum for poetry therapy, founded
the Bibliotherapy Training Program at St. Elizabeths, and
served as its co-director and clinical supervisor, training
hospital staff and community mental health professionals in
the use of poetry and other literature in the treatment of
hospitalized patients with severe and persistent mental
illness. From 1993 to 2007, he co-directed the Wordsworth
Center for Poetry Therapy Training.
A much sought-after speaker and workshop leader, Ken
presented workshops, seminars, and Grand Rounds lectures
nationally and internationally at hospitals, universities,
and organizational meetings. His articles on mental health,
psychopathology, and literature were published in the
American
Journal of Social Psychiatry, Arts in Psychotherapy, Journal
of Poetry Therapy, and Expressive Therapies, to name just a
few of the many publications he contributed to over his
lifetime. In fact, Ken's contributions as a speaker, writer,
organizer, editor, advisor, and leader were extremely
numerous and a testament to a man who had amazing erudition
and energy.
Ken was also an exceptionally generous mentor and colleague
and friend, who readily shared his resources, ideas, time,
and energy to educate and empower. He had a superb sense of
humor and a laugh that was unrestrained and utterly gleeful,
and he had the endearing ability to bring smiles and laughter
to other people, no matter how difficult their circumstances.
His voice's melodic, pleasant lilt communicated a special
combination of maturity and caring and welcome that
immediately put people at ease, disarming them, and opening
them up to the possibilities of life. He possessed deep
wisdom and insight into human nature, and he showed
exceptional levels of kindness, compassion, and gentleness
toward those who are most vulnerable and in need of care.
And, despite his intellectual brilliance and considerable
professional accomplishments, he had that rare gift to make
all those he encountered feel respected and worthy.
Never once did Ken Gorelick lose his appreciation of what
is essential: each single day, each single person. In an
article after a childhood of fear-defying, successful scuba-
diving experience, he wrote: ``This day, like every day, has
had something to celebrate. And to be grateful for,'' and he
went on to quote William Stafford's lines, ``Will you ever
bring a better gift for the world/than the breathing respect
that you carry/wherever you go right now?''
He valued each moment and each person around him. In his
touching eulogy for his beloved friend and mentor, Arleen
Hynes, Ken praised what he deemed as her superb talent
of ``finding the dazzling part of each person, and letting
that person know she saw it.'' Ken, too, had that talent
and used it to its fullest.
There can be no greater example of Ken's sacred, lifelong
commitment to serve humanity and his immeasurable generosity
of spirit than how he used his own life-threatening brain
cancer diagnosis as a powerful means to teach his students,
future doctors, the power of human empathy. He openly shared
with them how this diagnosis feels to a patient, allowing
them to question, sharing his story of how he was treated by
doctors, and, through this intimate personal revelation, he
taught them how necessary it is to have genuine empathy and
what this means to the patient. He taught them the great
power of the simple words, ``I'm sorry.'' In Leslie Milk's
interview with Ken which is transcribed in her article ``The
Doctor as Patient,'' Washingtonian, May 2009, Ken disclosed
his story of coping with his brain cancer diagnosis, his
awareness of its typical course, his experience with the
medical community and the limited status of research, and, so
typical of Ken, his determination to enjoy life's riches. He
again underscored the value of a doctor's simple ``I'm
sorry.''
Ken continued, to the very last, to teach medical students
and residents to use the power of literature, the words that
tell the story of humanity, in their endeavors to help
others. He believed in the connection of all people through
all time and how that connection can be accessed in the
stories, great and small, of each and every person. And, in
the end, he even offered the story of his own experience with
terminal illness to encourage them to always make the human
connection.
A poem--written after the first surgery to remove the brain
tumor--shares some of his deepest reflections: ``I feel my
life has been right . . . I put into each act more thought
and mindfulness . . . The trees have been challenged by
dryness and lack of cold/ Out of this dearth has come such
beauty/ Still clinging with all its tenacity.''
Ken's immense joy of being alive and his savoring of each
moment of life are reflected in his verses and are echoed by
two of his favorite poets, Stanley Kunitz and Mary Oliver.
Kunitz wrote in his poem ``The Round'': ``I can scarcely wait
till tomorrow/ when a new life begins for me,/ as it does
each day,/ as it does each day.'' And Oliver wrote in her
poem ``Peonies'': ``Do you love this world?/ Do you cherish
your humble and silky life?/ Do you adore the green grass,
with its terror beneath?'' Ken's answer, our answer with him,
is ``Yes! Forever!''
Ken's passing is a great sad event which is for us a time
to feel not only the deep loss of a man who gave so much to
all, but also the joyful celebration that he lived, a man
whose spirit and actions will continue to influence the many
people he touched during his time on earth.
Dr. Gorelick is survived by his beloved wife, Cheryl
Opacinch Gorelick, a retired international policy analyst; a
sister and brother-in-law, Arlene and Joseph Taub of New
Jersey; a niece and nephew, Michelle Taub Tesser and Scott
Tesser; and Marc Taub and Karen Taub, great-nieces and great-
nephews, other relatives, friends and colleagues.
Looking back I feel my life has been right
No second-guessing that this or that might have been better,
No ache that I might have climbed higher mountains.
I am in a generous leisurely mood with myself
Filled with gratitude and awe for what has been,
The gifts, the luck, the love.
My hunger now is different.
I put into each act more thought and mindfulness.
Eventually the true cliches come to pass: like ``living in
the moment.''
Time has slowed to a crawl.
That is a good thing.
Every grain counts as it drops
My being, my spirit are pulled by gravity.
And they soar.
Moment to moment I try to solve, ignore, or transcend the
frustrations
My big eye on the big picture.
And that picture is beautiful.
This fall foliage has not been spectacular.
But here, at my back door, there is a city forest
No flaming colors
Yet the palette is subtle and exquisite
A harmony of golds, greens, rusts.
The trees have been challenged by dryness
And lack of cold
Out of this dearth has come such beauty
Still clinging with all its tenacity
--Ken Gorelick 11/14/07