Madam Speaker, on May 7, 2010, we recognized Military Spouse Appreciation Day. On this day, I received a letter from Mrs. Anthony Massey, the wife of a diver in the United States Navy. Her letter is attached, and it very eloquently talks…
Madam Speaker, on May 7, 2010, we recognized Military Spouse Appreciation Day. On this day, I received a letter from Mrs. Anthony Massey, the wife of a diver in the United States Navy. Her letter is attached, and it very eloquently talks about the
sacrifice, support and dedication provided by military spouses to our men and women in uniform.
Have You Thanked a Military Spouse Today?
In 1984, President Ronald Reagan designated the Friday
before Mother's Day as Military Spouse Appreciation Day, a
day set aside to recognize the many contributions and
sacrifices military spouses make in support of military
members and our country.
Yesterday, President Obama made this declaration:
When Americans answer the call to serve in our Armed
Forces, a sacred trust is forged. Our men and women in
uniform take on the duty of protecting us all, and their
spouses and families also help shoulder this important
responsibility . . . At the heart of our Armed Forces,
servicemembers' spouses keep our military families on track.
They balance family life, military life, and their careers
all while supporting other military families and giving back
to their communities . . . Today, let us honor the spouses
and families who support our servicemembers and, in doing so,
help defend our Nation and preserve our liberty.
For many military spouses, we have essentially no idea what
it means to be a ``military spouse'' when we say, ``I do''.
We, like many, simply make a pledge that day to support our
loved one through good times and bad. However, it quickly
becomes apparent that military life is unlike anything we
have experienced. When standing at the alter, whether we know
it or not, we are making a commitment to serve our country,
many times forsaking our desires for a greater cause.
Rarely, will you ever see a military spouse seeking the
approval of others for the hat he or she wears. Rarely, will
you ever hear a military spouse ask for ``Thank Yous'' after
he or she has kissed their loved one for the last time for 7
months (or longer). Rarely, will you ever witness a military
spouse demand compensation for raising their children as a
single parent while their loved one deploys for the fourth
time in five years.
In just really is not our style.
When you say, ``I do'' to a Sailor, Marine, Soldier,
Airman, or Coast Guardsman, you are immediately inducted into
a special society of spouses . . . one that is built on a
legacy of those who have sacrificially dedicated their life
to the service of their country. A legacy that only
understood by those who have walked the walk and talked the
talk. From this legacy, we are inspired, encouraged, and
supported. We know many before us and along side of us have
gotten through it, have overcome the challenges, and
persevered when the going gets tough.
We know that there is at least one spouse who has
celebrated an anniversary alone and one spouse who watched
their child graduate from preschool/high school/college
alone. We know there is at least one spouse who moved from
one state to another alone. We know there is at least one
spouse who has given birth to their first, third, or sixth
child alone.
Nevertheless, we are quick to remember that we are never
alone. For me personally, Jesus is always by my side.
However, for all of us, every military spouse, past or
present, is standing side-by-side with us as we continue to
overcome the challenges of daily life.
There is a joy like no other when your Sailor, Marine,
Solider, Airman, or Coast Guardsman comes home from
deployment or training. There is an excitement that wakes you
up at all hours of the night and keeps you from falling back
asleep in the days leading up to their return home. There is
a sense of relief as soon as they are in your arms that you
have defeated the odds.
These moments make it worthwhile. That first eye-to-eye
contact . . . that first embrace . . . that first kiss all
remind you why you fell in love with them the first time. It
is the overwhelming sense of pride you feel when you see them
in uniform as they step off the plane or ship that reminds
you that the hat you wear is worth it. It is that first
morning that you wake up in their arms that gives you the
strength to begin preparing for the next separation.
Military spouses are a breed like no other. While the
United States Military has no official authority over us,
they really do because they tell us when our loved one will
work, when they will stand watch, when they will deploy, and
to where we will move next. Their system can be archaic and
rigid at times . . . but without it, our loved one's life is
at risk. We grow to appreciate this rigidity. We learn to
communicate in a language based on acronyms. Moreover, we
learn to roll with the punches.
Before we got married, Andy told me that military life is
like the tide, frequently changing on a daily basis. There
are no certainties to military life other than constant
change. Frequently, deployment dates move up and return dates
are pushed back. Departure times become earlier and arrival
times get later. To be a successful military spouse, you must
be resilient because without resiliency, you crack. We are
stretched to our limits and then some, with little power to
change the situation.
Military spouses are woven together with the same strand of
thread when we accept this responsibility with a gracious
heart and sacrificial love for our Sailor, Marine, Airman, or
Coast Guardsman. And for the military spouses whose loved one
has paid the ultimate price in service to our country, we, as
a nation, are forever indebted to them for the price they
paid as a military spouse.
I write this out of the pride I have to be ND1 Massey's
wife. Pride in him as a Mighty Man who serves an Awesome God
first and our country second. Pride that reduces me to tears
whenever I think of him.
So if you know one, thank one. While they may react humbly,
chances are it will mean a great deal to them. Our Sailors,
Marines, Soldiers, Airmen, and Coast Guardsmen are so
frequently the ones who are thanked . . . and they should be.
They are the ones that leave their families at home to fight
for a cause they may not always support. However, every once
in a while, when we are thanked for wearing this hat, it
reassures us that we are remembered and appreciated and it
encourages us to face the next challenge head on.