Madam Speaker, I rise today to honor the memory of my father-in-law, Normand Best. Tribute to an Everyday American: Normand A. Best Normand Audrey Best was born in Omaha, Nebraska on November 3, 1928, to his proud parents, Catherine and…
Madam Speaker, I rise today to honor the memory of my father-in-law, Normand Best.
Tribute to an Everyday American: Normand A. Best
Normand Audrey Best was born in Omaha, Nebraska on November
3, 1928, to his proud parents, Catherine and Paul Best. He
was born and raised in the country's heartland where his
mother's family, the Kelleys, had farmed since the late
1880s. The nation was on the verge of the Depression and
ultimately Paul's work would take them to California, and
then on to Washington State, but it was his midwestern values
and work ethic that would serve him all of his life. He would
often talk at Christmastime with great fondness of the farm
in Nebraska, the small schools, and his family.
The Kelley girls--as Norm's mother, Catherine, and her
sisters were called--made their mark in the community and the
parish. The five daughters of John Kelley would remain close
throughout their lives as pillars of both the parish and the
community. They were a source of comfort and solace to one
another. Norm has two sisters, Joan and Mildred, and a
brother, Gordon. A nine-year difference in age didn't allow
the brothers to get close until they were older; however,
Gordon looked up to his older brother and more than Best
Brothers they were Best Friends and great fishing buddies.
Norm had a quiet reserve about him, a humility that comes
from being raised in hard times and the decency and demeanor
of a gentleman and a soldier. Like most who served in his
generation, he said little about his war experience. It's not
a subject that one dwells on, but over a few Bellows, his
drink of preference, he would reflect on his service in the
Marine Corps and how the training and discipline had served
him well.
Norm enlisted in the United States Marine Corps during
World War II and served with distinction. He spoke rarely but
poignantly of having to escort home the bodies of fallen
heroes. He recalled how painful it was to go to the door of
the Marines' parents and give them the news. He was proud of
the Marines and the way they conducted themselves and the
honor and respect they paid to those who had given the full
measure of devotion to their country.
He had a mind that was perhaps predisposed to math and
engineering. He had a clearheaded way of making decisions and
an acute ability to analyze data and information. These
skills would serve him well in his profession as a flight
engineer for Pan American, as a trouble shooter for Pratt and
Whitney Aircraft, and even in a game of pinochle.
How a boy from Nebraska develops an aptitude for flight and
engineering is a story in itself. It was in pursuit of this
career that his life would be transformed when he met Carolyn
Tasse. Carolyn, as his brother Gordon aptly described her,
had a smile you could see a block away and lighted up any
room she entered with its warmth. They were the
quintessential American couple--he looking like Glen Ford and
she a short-haired Donna Reed. They met at Pan Am, so even
before they married they got to travel and see the world
together. This Midwestern man and New England woman fell in
love and were married. His job carried them to Minnesota and
then on to San Antonio, where they started their family of
four: Leslie, Louise, Warren and Allen. Ultimately his job
would lead them to East Hartford, Connecticut, where he would
live, work, and raise his family for the rest of his life.
It's hard to comprehend how at 39 years of age he dealt
with Carolyn's passing. She died of Cancer in 1967, leaving
him with four little children--the oldest, Leslie, who was
nine and the youngest, Allen, who was just four. Nothing in
his life experience could have prepared him for this, yet he
met the circumstance with the resolve to keep his family
together. To those ends he gave the full measure of his
devotion both to his deceased wife and his children.
He and Carolyn were a love story before Ryan O'Neil and Ali
McGraw had portrayed a similar saga in the movie ``A Love
Story.'' He never remarried and dedicated himself to his
children and his work. He made sure that he took the family
on interesting vacations that they all still recall fondly
whenever they gather together. He cooked, cleaned, and showed
up at all of their events. He was their compass and their
rock. There was no doubt of his love and selfless devotion.
I was fortunate to meet him through his daughter, Leslie,
and eventually became his son-in-law. I treasured my
conversations, dinners, birthdays, holidays and especially
the times when his brother Gordon or his mother were in town.
The card games and the stories had all of the sentimentality
that makes the bond of family so strong. If I close my eyes,
I can still hear the laughter of their voices lingering in
the night.
He was proud of his children and their accomplishments and
especially proud of his grandchildren, whom he also showered
with the full measure of his love and devotion. He was the
family support system, the go-to person in a crisis, and the
unfailing steady rock on which everyone depended and whom he
never let down.
He reminded me very much of my own Father, different but
alike in many, many ways. Their values, work ethic, sense of
responsibility and character are examples that I only wish I
could emulate. He was an everyday man who minded his own
business and tended to his individual needs and family
responsibilities. He asked little for all he had sacrificed.
I often wondered when I'd see him drift off or reflect
while he was listening to his music if he wasn't thinking of
he and Carolyn traveling the world, creating a family and how
short their time was together. Having given the full measure
of his devotion, it's heartrending to know he was reunited
with Carolyn on August 6, 2009. Norm completed his circle of
life, and while he is dearly missed, we are comforted knowing
his journey has brought him to a place his heart never left--
back home to her.