Mr. Speaker, there are times in our lives when we fully realize the presence of heros among us. And there are times when we fully realize that we have lost one of those heros; that is the case with Marine 1st Lt. Matthew Lynch, a young man…
Mr. Speaker, there are times in our lives when we fully realize the presence of heros among us. And there are times when we fully realize that we have lost one of those heros; that is the case with Marine 1st Lt. Matthew Lynch, a young man who gave his life for his country in Iraq. It is difficult to memorialize a man who stood as tall in life as Matthew did and harder yet to memorialize a man who stands even taller in death. I believe the words of his father, Bill Lynch, spoken at Matt's funeral speak best to this fallen hero and not only capture the magnitude of the great life Matt lived but the magnitude of the loss to our nation:
``To all Matt's friends, and you are many; I thank you for
coming. Saying farewell to our beloved Matthew is the hardest
thing I have ever done. At this time, my thoughts alternately
fly through my mind like sharp arrows; or slip through my
mental fingers like quicksilver; and I cannot hold them fast.
Because of this; and because I have only this one time to pay
tribute to Matt, and to tell you about his life, I must affix
my thoughts to paper, and read them; and for this, I beg your
indulgence.
But for now, I borrow from Shakespeare, and tell you that .
. . We gather today to praise Matt, not to bury him. And that
is because all the things Matt was; Love of family and
friends; gentleness, strength, humor, grace, dedication,
honor, loyalty, patriotism, humility, and yes, of course,
courage . . . can never be buried, because they are eternal,
as is now, our beloved Matt.
While we mourn Matt's loss it brings with it an opportunity
for us all, in private moments, to reflect on what he was,
and perhaps to develop in ourselves, those attributes he had,
which we lack; so that the warm light of remembrance which
fills this church today, may one day shine on us.
I will speak to you today of Matt's life, and of ironies
gentle, and tragic, which at present you know nothing of, and
I will tell you of a curious sign I've lately seen which
reassures me.
But for now, to understand Matt's life, you are in the
right place; because this is where all that he was, began, on
a Summer day in 1979, when my wife Angela and I brought our
little Matthew Devin Lynch to that very baptismal font, to be
baptized. The Gospel that day, I remember vividly, was the
Gospel according to Saint Matthew, and I thought that a very
propitious beginning. The name Matthew, we knew, came from
Hebrew, and meant ``Gift of God.''
And what a gift he was! Cherubic, loving, obedient, and oh
yes, very active. As he developed, it was evident that he had
extraordinary athletic skills. One day when he was about 3
years old, and bounding about with his brother Tim and their
friends, a visitor to our neighbor's patio said to me ``Is
that your son?'' ``Yes,'' I replied. ``Do you realize that he
is a natural athlete?'' the man said. ``How do you know,'' I
asked? ``I am a pediatrician,'' he said, ``I see thousands of
kids, and believe me, he is a natural athlete.'' It was a
prophecy, which would be fulfilled.
I raised both our sons as athletes, and spent countless
hours drilling various skills into them. I always did it with
some zany game I had devised . . . Kids learn best when they
are having fun. In most of those games, I was the villain,
the opponent, the one to be conquered, but I always did it
with humor, and they came to love ``the games.''
When they were only 5 or 6 years old, we used to play a
game I had devised to build their swimming speed, I called it
``Shark and Minnows.'' In our community pool, I would emplace
Matt and Tim near a ladder at one end of the pool. Their
mission was to swim to a ladder directly opposite them, and
get out of the pool before the shark could catch them. I
stood waist deep in the water, at the far end . . . the
feared and fearsome Shark.
At first I was a very successful shark, but very shortly,
the minnows got much quicker, and the shark caught nothing
but air. Soon the Minnows ``can't catch me'' glee, told me
that my days as a big fish were over, and that Matt's were
just beginning. A few years later, as Matt swam by me, I
raised my head, to see if someone was pulling him on a rope.
At that time, Tim, had his eyes on two Jericho High School
swim records, and he decided to join the Long Island Aquatic
Club, to begin his assault on those records, which he did in
fact, later claim. But in the beginning Matt just tagged
along. After their first three hour LIAC workout, I asked
Matt ``How did it go?'' ``I . . . NEVER . . . want . . . to .
. . do that . . . again,'' said Matt. But like everything
Matt did, he went back, and excelled . . . a theme you will
come to recognize.
Soon, he became one of the elite LIAC swimmers. He also
swam right across his high school's record board, eclipsing
every individual record, even Tim's, leaving his own name in
his wake. He set the country record in the 200-yard
individual medley, finished third in New York State in that
event and the 100-yard freestyle. He was All County swimmer
three years in a row; a County champion in two events each
of his last two years.
Baseball was the same. All-County catcher his last two
years in high school, nominated for the ``Diamond Award,'' as
one of the best players in Nassau County; and as a senior, he
tied for the home run record, all of this easily fulfilling
the prophecy that stranger had made so many years ago.
He continued this at Duke University. He was the swim
team's ``Rookie of the Year,'' and became a mainstay of that
team. He was also a catcher on the Duke baseball team for two
years, but in his Senior year, carrying out the theme which
defines his life, he told his swim coach he wanted to return
to his swim team ``family,'' his buddies, and he did. As a
Senior, and in his very last race, when his team needed him
to step up, we saw him swim one of his best 100-yard
freestyle times, then sadly walk off, his career over.
Between high school and college, he loved his job as a Jones
Beach lifeguard; competed on their competition team, and
there too, he excelled, and developed many friends.
``What next?'' I asked him shortly after he graduated from
Duke. ``Dad, the Marine Corps, or course.'' ``Are you doing
this because Tim and I did it, or because YOU want to do
it?'' I asked. ``Dad, I want to do it,'' he replied.
The next few years were difficult for Angela and I. Our
Marine sons began to go in harm's way. First, Tim in
Afghanistan; then Tim and Matt in Iraq. But they always
returned. Last Easter, Matt phoned us to say he was ordered
to Iraq a 2nd time, as a replacement for some Lieutenants in
another unit who had been wounded. But after 3 months, he
again returned, and we were overjoyed. But shortly, he said,
``Mom, Dad, you will think I'm crazy, but my old unit, my
buddies are going back to Iraq, and I really want to join
them.'' Again, that theme of loyalty, family.
All during our son's deployments, I had been haunted by a
specter of Marines in Dress Blue uniforms, walking to our
door, bearing terrible news . . . and that specter was rooted
in my past.
You see, in 1966, I too was a lst Lieutenant, then serving
a short tour at The Marine Corps District Headquarters in
Garden City. One of my duties was casualty calls. That meant
when a Marine was wounded or killed, I had to personally
notify his next of kin. ``I'll only be here 3 months,'' I
thought, ``I should be O.K.''
The next week, my Colonel grimly dropped a Teletype on my
desk. ``KIA,'' it started. ``Lt., will you handle this?'' he
said. My stomach rolled. My duty that day was to break a
mother's heart. I gathered two NCOs, got a priest, and drove
to the Marine's home. His mother was getting out of her car .
. . she had just returned from the beach . . . she looked at
us . . . and dropped like a stone. We took her inside,
neighbors came, someone called her husband, ``Come home right
now, was all he was told.''
When he arrived he told me that he had immediately punched
the wall at work, and would have punched me, had he been at
home. ``I just would not have wanted to hear what I knew you
were going to say,'' he said.
I told my Colonel we had a dangerous situation, and that
someone would eventually get hurt. We had no standing
operating procedure for these casualty calls . . . no S.O.P.
``Write one, Lieutenant,'' he said, and I did. I specified
NCOs for wounds . . . but always an NCO and an officer for a
death. I put my heart and soul into it, trying to devise
something, which would give aid and comfort to the bereaved,
and protection to our Marines. Years later, I encountered
marines from that same office. and we discussed casualty
calls by then quite numerous. ``It's no fun,'' they said,
``but at least we have a really good S.O.P.'' ``I know,'' I
said, ``I wrote it.''
On August 31, Matt returned with his buddies for a third
tour, and, on October 31, he was killed by a roadside bomb.
That same day, my wife Angela and I, still unaware, drove to
the beach, to walk the boardwalk. It was a gorgeous day, and
we spoke of how fortunate we were to have such fine sons, and
how proud we were of our two Marines. We passed the beach
where Matt worked, and again spoke of him, and then we
returned home. I parked the car, we entered our house . . .
just as that mother had done almost 40 years ago . . . the
day I broke her heart. The door was ajar, and as I heard
Angela exclaim, ``Oh No!'' . . . I turned to see two Marines
in dress blue uniforms, grimly walking towards us. One an
NCO, the other an officer. Each wore the same stony mask I
had worn years ago, and in an instant I knew our Matt was
gone . . . you see, I'd written that S.O.P.
How ironic that the pain I'd delivered so long ago to
someone else; was now visited on my doorstep; and stranger
still, that the procedure I'd then written to console others,
was now applied to us. The next day, Angela and I took our
shattered hearts to this church. It was All Souls Day, and
the Gospel that day . . . was according to St. Matthew.
``Wire to wire,'' I thought, ``Saint Matthew.''
Matt, our beloved gift of God died trying to free a people
from a vicious enemy, whose unspeakable acts of barbarism,
even against their own people, while done in the name of God,
reveal them to be Godless; and such evil must be opposed. We
revere Matt's service, and while we are saddened, we are not
angry. Not at our government, not at our President, and
certainly not at the United States Marine Corps, that fine
fighting force our Matt was so proud to serve.
The days ahead will be difficult for us. When the last of
you have gone, and our door has closed, our ordeal will
begin. A bright light has left our home, never to return, and
all the sand in Iraq cannot fill the hole in our hearts. But
recently, I've noted a sign, although in the strangest place,
which suggests reassurance. Now, you may think this forced,
contrived, or fabricated for this moment; perhaps the ranting
of one whose heart, buffeted too hard by this tragedy, is
trying too hard to see, but you are wrong, because I saw this
sign long before Matt's death.
Some months ago, I looked down upon a floor tile in our
home, and saw clearly what could easily be an artist's
rendition of the face of Christ. It stared directly at me.
Curious. For weeks, I looked at that visage every day. What
to make of it? Eventually, my eyes began to scan around the
visage, and recently, I also clearly saw, sheltered in the
corner, and under the right shoulder of that visage . . . the
perceptible head and face of a very small child. Each had
slowly been revealed to me, and until lately I have not known
what to make of this; but clearly, the events of this last
week suggest to me that Matt, and formerly our little Gift of
God, has, as was his custom, made one final return to family
and is now, the visage assures me, sheltered, and safely
home, and this gives me great comfort.
It is time to close, and I must do this in two ways:
To the heavens I say:
``Lord this is our son Matthew, in whom we are well
pleased. He was your precious gift to us, and we return him
to you now. Please grant Matt a place of favor, where he may
rest comfortably until those of us who have loved him so can
join him.''
And finally, to our son Matt, I say those words every
Marine longs to hear;
``Well done Marine . . . and Semper Fi!''