Thank you, Mr. Speaker. Today begins the observation of National Marriage Week. It is a week that begins today, February 7, and will go through Valentine's Day, February 14, next week. Around the Nation, in fact, indeed around the world,…
Thank you, Mr. Speaker.
Today begins the observation of National Marriage Week. It is a week that begins today, February 7, and will go through Valentine's Day, February 14, next week. Around the Nation, in fact, indeed around the world, there are those organizations and individuals who will be conducting events around National Marriage Week.
So I think it's all too fitting and proper that we take this hour on the floor of the House of Representatives to recognize the importance of marriage and the importance of homes. Tonight, we will be having a series of speeches that will reflect the importance of marriage and the home, and we will also recognize National Marriage Week.
Mr. Speaker, for the first of those speeches, I would like to recognize my friend, my colleague from Mississippi (Mr. Harper).
Thank you, Mr. Harper.
Now I would like to call on my friend Mr. Lamborn, the gentleman from Colorado.
Thank you, Mr. Lamborn.
Mr. Speaker, I now recognize the gentleman from Oklahoma (Mr. Lankford).
Mr. Speaker, it is my honor to participate in National Marriage Week, along with my bride of 30 years, Tori. In fact, it was February 13, 1980, that she and I went out for the first time. And on that night I found a friend, a friend that would be a life partner. A couple of years later we were married.
Now the purpose of National Marriage Week, as has been articulated here on the House floor tonight, is to recognize the benefits and the stability that strong marriages bring to society. Now, it's purpose is not to belittle those who have never been married. Neither is it's purpose to make those
who may have previously been married feel like their value to America is somehow not important. I recognize tonight there are thousands of single parents struggling. They're struggling every day to make ends meet. They're trying to balance two tough full-time jobs--jobs being the sole breadwinner and provider to a family, and the full-time job of being a parent. But it's also important that we not forget to recognize the importance of strong marriages in our society.
The home is the fundamental unit of society. The home is the system whereby values are transmitted from one generation to the next. Studies have shown that children raised in intact, married homes are more likely to attend college. They're physically and emotionally healthier. They're less likely to be physically or sexually abused. They're less likely to use drugs or alcohol. They're less likely to be involved in a teenage pregnancy. The home was the first institution established on Earth. In fact, it's older than the institutions of religion, of government, of education. The home is the only institution we have on Earth that is exactly the same as it was before sin entered the Earth.
And today, we stand on the foundations of the homes created by our ancestors. And a strong America in the next century begins with strong homes today. Strong homes begin with strong marriages. I have known this to be true in my own life. While their story is not unique, in fact it's a story that is replicated throughout America.
Next week, there's a couple in Tupelo, Mississippi, who will celebrate their 55th wedding anniversary. They married as children in 1957. She was 17. He was an old man of 19. If their compatibility had been put into one of the matchmaking computer programs that's available today and all of their data had been input, those computers I'm convinced would have spit out a three-word message: Are you kidding?
He had lived all of his 19 years of life on a small and poor farm in Pontotoc County, Mississippi. He had rarely traveled from the place of his birth. On the other hand, she was born in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. She lived there until her family was transferred to Mississippi as she was to begin the 11th grade. The summer after she graduated from high school, they met. She canceled her plans to attend college because she had met what would be her life partner. While their backgrounds had very little in common, their families shared two very important values: a strong faith in God and a commitment to the family unit.
Their first night together, they got down on their knees and they committed their marriage to God, and they committed themselves to each other. Over the ensuing 55 years, they've shared many good days: the birth or adoption of seven children; her graduation from college, an event that had been delayed by almost two decades; his becoming very successful in the life insurance business, including becoming the president of one of the State's largest and most successful life insurance companies; the birth of 14 grandchildren; seeing all seven of their children given the opportunity to attain a college education.
But just like in so many families, every day has not been a bright one. Trying to raise children while building a sales territory, there were a lot of times when there was not a lot of money left at the end of a long month.
They've held hospitalized children, some hospitalized with routine childhood illnesses, others with life-threatening conditions, and they've had long nights in the hospital not knowing if that child would make it to see the morning.
They've had to console a grieving daughter as she was consoling a son, a grieving daughter who was far too young to be a widow. They leaned on each other as he was terminated from the company that he'd built. He was the casualty of a corporate merger.
Through the good days as well as the bad, the commitment they made to God, the commitment they made to each other, has endured. While the word ``retirement'' is not in their vocabulary, they are beginning their eighth decade on Earth, and they are beginning it each day with each other.
Their seven children are scattered from Knoxville to San Antonio, and each are contributing members of their communities. One of them lives in Mississippi, but works part-time in Washington, D.C., and tonight he's proud to stand on the floor of the United States House of Representatives and on behalf of their children, their grandchildren, and their great grandchildren, say thank you. Thank you for your commitment to each other, because your commitment to each other, your commitment to your family will not be measured by years, but rather, it will be measured by generations.
This story is not unique. In fact, it's representative of the millions of stories told by millions of families that have made America great. But as we stand here tonight, we need to be mindful that because of the value that strong marriages bring to society, the policies of government should support strong marriages and not oppose them.
All too often, whether it's in tax policy, housing policy, or the policy of Federal benefits, the policies of government are stacked against families. If we truly believe that families are the foundation of a strong America, we need to make the policies of government support and enhance those families.
Mr. Speaker, let me now recognize the gentleman from Texas (Mr. Gohmert).
Thank you, Mr. Gohmert.
As we wrap up this hour, recognizing the importance of National Marriage Week, I want to conclude, recognizing, first of all, my own life's partner.
February 13 will mark the day, a little over three decades ago, that I thought I was going out to eat dinner for a blind date. What I was doing was being introduced to a friend, a lifelong friend. As we talked that night, we found out that the things we shared we wanted to share with one another.
And I've learned so much from my now bride of 30 years, Tori, but I think one of the things that I've learned from her that applies to National Marriage Week, I've heard her say, time and time again, love's not a feeling, it's an action. You can't help how you feel about something. You can help how you act.
There's another young family that I'm reminded of as we celebrate National Marriage Week, a young couple that, a little under 6 years ago, I sat at a church, watched their families smile with excitement, watched them exchange promises to one another. And here, in their early years of marriage, they've had words introduced to their vocabulary that they didn't think would be part of their everyday conversation, words like ``biopsy,'' ``radiation.''
As I talked to that young bride over the Christmas holidays, I told her, I said, you didn't sign up for this, did you? She looked at me and smiled and she said, yes, sir, I did. But I committed for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. I did sign up for this. No, I wouldn't choose it, but I'm here, and I'm committed.
So, Mr. Speaker, as we conclude our recognition of National Marriage Week, I'm reminded of the observation of old, the observation that God saw it was not good for man to live alone, so God put us in families. I thank God for those families.
I hope and I pray that the policies of this government will continue to support marriages and families so that we can have a strong America.
With that, Mr. Speaker, I yield back the balance of my time.